Today I was reminded of an important truth about families in one of the publications from the Church. In this specific account, a father had experienced some severe setbacks at work. His daughter, seeing his discouragement, recalled a story from the scriptures that prompted her to know how to help her father overcome his challenges. They reached out to friends and extended family, who came together to bless the lives of the struggling family and help the father get back on his feet. Promises were made and kept, and faithfulness was required of all involved. The family and their friends worked together to find success. As an added bonus, through the whole experience, the daughter found a man who would display great devotion to her and eventually become her husband.
The publication is chapter 8 in the Book of Ether. Jared had become “exceedingly sorrowful because of the loss of the kingdom, for he had set his heart upon the kingdom and upon the glory of the world.” (v.7) Jared’s daughter, “seeing the sorrows of her father, thought to devise a plan whereby she could redeem the kingdom unto her father… And it came to pass that she did talk with her father, and said unto him: Whereby hath my father so much sorrow? Hath he not read the record which our fathers brought across the great deep? Behold, is there not an account concerning them of old, that they by their secret plans did obtain kingdoms and great glory?” (vs. 8-9) Akish is pleased by her dancing, desires to marry her, and agrees to murder Jared’s father the reigning king to obtain that right (kind of makes Johnny Lingo’s offering pale in comparison). Akish calls an extended family council and asks them to “swear unto me that ye will be faithful unto me in the thing which I shall desire of you?…And it came to pass that they all sware unto him, by the God of heaven.” (v. 13-14)
The truth of which I was reminded was that just because you do something as a family, care about each other’s feelings, employ learnings from the scriptures, or wrap your actions in religious-sounding terms and promises, it does not mean that what you do is automatically right or comes anywhere near having the blessing of the Lord. When families focus on the collective achievement of anything that does not focus them on Christ, the result will be bad.